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Burns Survivor's Relationship

BURNS VICTIM RELATIONSHIP.
A burn survivor,
I met her here and we have talked for a long time and few days back she suggested that since I have a platform here, that I should use that medium to reach out to my lovely audience, to note the feelings a burns patient suffer after noticing he/she has suffered a lot.
She brought this idea up after having a lot of relationship issues,
I never wanted to talk about this issues but me too has/have been there too because before I got here I have seen hell in relationships.
Now you need to note some of the emotional recovery challenges that patients may face after sustaining a major burn injury. It is important to point out that most burn survivors do very well psychologically after surviving a burn injury. However, even though we are optimistic about long term recovery, burn survivors may face several challenges in the aftermath of their injury. Whereas each individual experiences psychological distress differently, people with burn injuries often report:
• Feeling…
o Sad, anxious or irritable
o Helpless
o Hopeless
o Upset about depending on other people for assistance
o Distant from family, friends or the general public
o Alone
o As if the injury was happening again or reliving it
o A physical reaction (e.g. heart pounding, trouble breathing, or sweating) when something reminds you of the injury
o Jumpy or easily startled
o “Super alert” or watchful and on guard
• Difficulty falling asleep due to thoughts like:
o “I worry about bad things that might happen”
o “I keep thinking about the way I was injured”
• Difficulty finding enjoyment in things that used to give pleasure
• Difficulty staying asleep
• Avoiding situations that remind you of the accident
• Avoiding thinking or talking about the injury and how it occurred
While in the hospital, survivors may find they have a lot of time to focus on their burn injury. Many people report having psychological distress several days or a few weeks after they were injured. For most, periods of distress become less frequent and less upsetting after a couple of weeks to a couple of months. However, problems that continues for more than a month or two, or thoughts about wanting to die or hurt one self, indicate a need to seek treatment. Cuddled from (MSKTC )
The above outlines is for you the reader to know the kind of person a burns survivor might appear to be, before you can really love someone through you have to understand the person, sometimes they act irrational or somehow it doesn’t mean they are bad or can’t be loved it’s because of their lives hurt and some are really trying to adjust to a normal life after been rejected because he/she has burns scars.
Now let’s talk a few about the pains burns survivors face during finding and being in relationships.
Some of us are really good at heart but during the growing up level has opened up our real self not knowing we did to the wrong ones and they made jest of us, mocked us and made use of our pure love because we are scarred.
A lot of burns survivors are somewhat love staying alone to themselves reasons because they think nobody will understand them the way they want and nobody can really be there for them 100% a lot give in all they have for someone that at the end the said someone can’t do a thing for them.
Some of them might be doing well and their spouse at any slight of provocation will keep reminding them “IF NOT BECAUSE OF ME NOBODY WILL DATE YOU/MARRY YOU” even my friends told me not to date you or marry you!!!
More coming up on my next series……..
Keep hope alive!!!
With burns we are BEAUTIFUL
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