The first post I made being a dad one got a lot of my friends talking to me saying they have accepted my apologies for not being able to be keeping up with them and some commented on the post via my mail saying they are indeed facing such challenges at there respective homes.
The truth is that all the men change after marriage am 100% sure of that, but the change they undergo can be in various forms such as some will tend too love the wife more than ever because they accepted to marry them with their whole heart, some tends to stop smoking for smokers, drinking for drinkers, getting home early for late nighters and some dropping and doing send off to their girlfriends because they have a woman at home, while some will start up doing the opposite.
Marriage is loveable, so sweet but like I always say marriage is not a hustle it takes the grace of God to marry and men hate intimidation.
But come to think of it… marriage is just a random selection of a man you know nothing about, a woman you actually know nothing about too and this tie called LOVE just got you two together and you decided to make promises at the alter and do traditional and white wedding gbam marriage starts.
Really me KAY is still wowed at this institution that has no entry form like JAMB, UTME,WASSEC oh my God you really need lots of nerve to venture into.
Before I begin with shocking gist let me share this with you…… last night my bestie STONE BABY, oh my darling STONE shared a story last night in her program “In The Mood” what is it that she shared? She read a facebook post, posted on her wall stating “my husband doesn’t wash her plates after eating and now me the wife decided to use disposable plates to serve him, he now dumps the disposables either in my car or in my wardrobe, am a banker the wife still lamenting while he job is basically on the internet and his sometimes free at home to do the washing of only his dishes not the family”.
I might be right or I might be wrong but I stand to be corrected “the above man is not only a stupid man but not a grown up to get married to a woman or make a family I don’t care how old he might think he is his not a real man”.
You know this the kind of scenes you see in marriage and how do you handle it? How long has he been doing it? How old is he? What attracted him to this lady? What's his perception about love? About marriage? Was he forced to marry the lady? Now on the other side…. Was the lady so bossy? Gives more time to the work than her husband? What kind of family is she from? Is she lazy? Jeez
You know why am scared of been a dad, its not just the responsibilities, but what to make out of it, I have done lots of things bad and good and I don’t want my wife or kids to take part in it.
Letting go of all the gadgets you need just to buy “SMA GOLD, SCHOOL FEES, TOYS, SCHOOL WEARS, GOING FOR PARENTS FORUM, PTA, PROVISION OF FOOD” and so on.
I know some of the ladies and gents reading this has some mental picture of how their marriage life is going to be, but let me ask you what if it doesn’t go that direction? How many of us can say God I need the kind of marriage my dad and mum is in? I ask you my dear ? can you pray for that?
Me hell no I want mine to be better than theirs, but it is just a mare saying the deal is this, how do I get it work out?
Prayers
Fasting
Reading marital books “such as marriage made in heaven?” Lol don’t waste your time am not trying to discourage you but there's no marriage made in heaven my love. The author does his/her kids want the kind of marriage their parents shared together.
Marriage seminars
Marriage classes
You know some single or dating guys reading this might not be able to get the mental picture of these words, but the people in this institution really might have wished to know this before hand, I might be sounding so sweet with my write ups but am no saint, I might have been messed up couple of times but my messy state taught me that people get married for lots of reasons.
CARS
SEX STYLES AND HOW HE/SHE GET THEM TO CLOUD 9
FAME
FAMILY BACKGROUND
PREGNANCY
WEALTH
Only few get married for pure and genuine LOVE & RESPECT.
But have you figured out that those few women that did it are basically dashed on the wall, messed up their feelings, used and labled no good, denied the goods that comes from marriage, yet they stay strong and carry the family because God is with them.
Am so scared to be a daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad
More to come
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