I WILL BE GETTING MARRIED AT 37.
The next building to my abode is the N.C.C.F Family house also known as the Nigerian Christian Coppers Fellowship (Anambra state chapter). They did hold a conference and some of the participants came out to take a break and four men were so so busy having an argument and it was specifically on when one of them will get married, and after the long argument one walked up to me and said "hi" then I decided to listen to them. After they told me what the issue was, I asked them how old they were respectively to which they responded 25, 33, 29 and 27.
The man that was 33 said he wanted to get married at 37!, I was taken aback because he was a graduate of English and a youth corper at the time of this discussion.
What might have triggered this I asked myself?
MONEY / FIANANCES?
SOCIAL STATUS?
JOB?
FAMILY ISUSSES?
CHOICE ISSUES?
BEEN A DAD ISSUES?
Then I took interest in him and started asking him questions as follows:-
Kosy:- why do you want to marry at 37 sir?
Copper:- because I want to finish my masters degree , get a job by then.
Kosy:- how old are you now sir?
Copper:- am 33 years of age.
Kosy:- how long do you think your masters program will last?
Copper:- may be up to 18 months or so.
Kosy:- have you taught about this 37 years before marriage issues, wise, socially, psychologically and etc?
Copper:- NO
Kosy:- why?
Copper:- because its so stressful for me to do so.
Kosy:- are you still young sir?
Copper:- yes am still young ni #in Yoruba dialect.
Kosy:- now I have to give you something to work on, do you remember the well enlarged wedding picture of your dad & mum? Do you have a clear picture on your head now?
Copper:- yes I do
Kosy:- how did they look then and how do they look now?
He was so shocked and then this was his response!
Copper:- they looked thin/ no synthetic flower as of the time of their wedding they used real flower, no bridals train and so on,
But now they are living good lot of cars to go round, houses at sites etc.
Kosy:- how old did you think they were then?
Copper:- mid 20”s
Kosy:- Now brother let just ask you a funny question, how old do you think your first issue will be lets say you got married @ 37 and maybe @40 your wife conceived , by your 60 years how old will he/she be?
Copper:- she/he should be 20 or so.
Kosy:- is this want you really want @ 60?
He was not really himself psychologically speaking when the question struck him, he just looked at me #feeling down and then he said,
Copper:- NO
Then he said to me bro how old are you? Well I did answer him….but am not ready to voice it to the readers he then looked at me and he #felt inspired,
Then he said who taught me all this things?
Am I married?
Have I been married?
How did you learn it?
Can I hold a seminar and feature you?
Can you be my adviser?
He expressed so much joy and said "now am so happy !!"
Now:- I was so happy I can be of help to this grown man to step out of this his ideology he’s been nursing and I did this through the grace of God and it was destined that I was going to free him that day. And am happy because he’s now a friend of mine.
Bottom line:- marriage its not Friendship or dating that you can just walk out from anytime you did wish to and give some excuses #mum always say that.
It’s also needs Gods guidance in other to be inline #not age related.
You really need to take your TIME, STRENGTH, PASSION, UN ENDING LOVE, and put a lot of things into consideration like COMPATABILITY, ABILITY TO UNDERSTAND, OVER LOOKING FAULTS, KILLING PRIDE etc.
Contact us: for views & comments, want to share to inspire? obumlovely@gmail.com
The next building to my abode is the N.C.C.F Family house also known as the Nigerian Christian Coppers Fellowship (Anambra state chapter). They did hold a conference and some of the participants came out to take a break and four men were so so busy having an argument and it was specifically on when one of them will get married, and after the long argument one walked up to me and said "hi" then I decided to listen to them. After they told me what the issue was, I asked them how old they were respectively to which they responded 25, 33, 29 and 27.
The man that was 33 said he wanted to get married at 37!, I was taken aback because he was a graduate of English and a youth corper at the time of this discussion.
What might have triggered this I asked myself?
MONEY / FIANANCES?
SOCIAL STATUS?
JOB?
FAMILY ISUSSES?
CHOICE ISSUES?
BEEN A DAD ISSUES?
Then I took interest in him and started asking him questions as follows:-
Kosy:- why do you want to marry at 37 sir?
Copper:- because I want to finish my masters degree , get a job by then.
Kosy:- how old are you now sir?
Copper:- am 33 years of age.
Kosy:- how long do you think your masters program will last?
Copper:- may be up to 18 months or so.
Kosy:- have you taught about this 37 years before marriage issues, wise, socially, psychologically and etc?
Copper:- NO
Kosy:- why?
Copper:- because its so stressful for me to do so.
Kosy:- are you still young sir?
Copper:- yes am still young ni #in Yoruba dialect.
Kosy:- now I have to give you something to work on, do you remember the well enlarged wedding picture of your dad & mum? Do you have a clear picture on your head now?
Copper:- yes I do
Kosy:- how did they look then and how do they look now?
He was so shocked and then this was his response!
Copper:- they looked thin/ no synthetic flower as of the time of their wedding they used real flower, no bridals train and so on,
But now they are living good lot of cars to go round, houses at sites etc.
Kosy:- how old did you think they were then?
Copper:- mid 20”s
Kosy:- Now brother let just ask you a funny question, how old do you think your first issue will be lets say you got married @ 37 and maybe @40 your wife conceived , by your 60 years how old will he/she be?
Copper:- she/he should be 20 or so.
Kosy:- is this want you really want @ 60?
He was not really himself psychologically speaking when the question struck him, he just looked at me #feeling down and then he said,
Copper:- NO
Then he said to me bro how old are you? Well I did answer him….but am not ready to voice it to the readers he then looked at me and he #felt inspired,
Then he said who taught me all this things?
Am I married?
Have I been married?
How did you learn it?
Can I hold a seminar and feature you?
Can you be my adviser?
He expressed so much joy and said "now am so happy !!"
Now:- I was so happy I can be of help to this grown man to step out of this his ideology he’s been nursing and I did this through the grace of God and it was destined that I was going to free him that day. And am happy because he’s now a friend of mine.
Bottom line:- marriage its not Friendship or dating that you can just walk out from anytime you did wish to and give some excuses #mum always say that.
It’s also needs Gods guidance in other to be inline #not age related.
You really need to take your TIME, STRENGTH, PASSION, UN ENDING LOVE, and put a lot of things into consideration like COMPATABILITY, ABILITY TO UNDERSTAND, OVER LOOKING FAULTS, KILLING PRIDE etc.
Contact us: for views & comments, want to share to inspire? obumlovely@gmail.com
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